When You’re Surviving, Not Thriving

I feel like I have been stuck in a rut here lately. Nothing exciting or life-changing has happened. Nothing severely unfortunate has happened (thank God!). I feel like I am just spinning my wheels. I feel like I am in this awkward phase of just going through a really, really long tunnel. I feel like I am singing the same note and it just keeps on and on. I feel like it is the same thing every day with little room for anything new or different.

I feel like I am just surviving, not thriving.

To me, when I think of surviving, I always think of Maslow’s Hierachy of Needs (it’s the psychology junkie in me), and I think about the most basic things we need: water, shelter, air, and so on. When I think about thriving, I think about goals being accomplished, trying something new, learning a new skill, traveling to a new place.
I view survival as what we need and thriving as what we desire.

I need to figure out what I can do to get me from surviving to thriving.

When it comes to the feeling of just being in a rut (where you just feel blah, whatever, somewhere in the middle), I think a lot of that probably stems from lack of sunshine. It is winter and cold. Plus, I work in an office setting, so it can get stuffy sometimes. Right now is our busiest time of the year, and I have had to change my schedule, so no more Zumba or Total Body Fitness classes for a while, which makes me so sad sometimes because I truly enjoyed doing both.

Like I said in another post, you just can’t be in a bad mood while doing Zumba.
Something I can control, however: I don’t get to get out like I would like sometimes. I don’t need a doctor to write this prescription…All I need is a camping trip to recharge!

Don’t under estimate the power of vitamin D, fresh mountain air, warmth, and sunshine! I believe in the power of being connected to nature–our spirituality–can have a very positive impact on our moods.

I can’t wait until it warms up so we can go camping again. I love nothing more than taking a nap in my zero gravity chair by the lake with the soft sunlight shining on me. Ah, I can feel the warmth. I need this in my life. Come on, spring!

For me, the spring weather is part of my “thrival” (yes, I just called it that) and right now, it ain’t happening. I keep telling myself to hold on. I always struggle during the winter months, and I know a lot of people do, too. But I keep telling myself the winter will pass, and soon I will be sniffling my head off. At least the pink roses and bright blue hydrangeas will be in bloom in the yard. The grass in the front yard will be green, not this dead, yucky brown. That is something to look forward to!

I think in terms of feeling accomplished, I think that is something I need to work on. Still chasing that goal of trying to lose weight, but I have tacked on wanting to run a half marathon next year to try and not make it all about losing weight. I had a not-so-good run on Monday, and it sort of discouraged me. I have been keeping track of my miles ran so far for 2019, and it is not that bad. I can see where I progress from running about 2.5 miles to 3.3, just in this month alone! So, that is something else I need to work on–focus on what is going well!

That’s the power of writing things down! When you don’t feel like you’re moving forward, you can look back on your notes and see how much you have done. That is encouraging and makes me thrive.

The good news is we can always work on the not-so-good. We have that power, and I need to reach down deep and find that motivation–or commitment, rather–that is going to keep me going. So, I had a not-so-good-run? So what. I imagine even the most seasoned runners do every now and then. I always challenge myself to be better than my last run, and that mentality has helped me push through.

I need to find ways to apply that to other areas of my life. How can you apply this to other areas of your life?

I am also going to start working dedicatedly (not sure if that is a word) on my nutrition, and hubby has decided to join me on this. I am excited and hopeful. Maybe this will help with the rut and brain fog.

We’re remodeling my home office, and I am going to make a “Goal Board” for it so I can be reminded of the things I want to achieve. I have some work to do. I want to do more than just survive–I want to thrive!

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